Setting writing critique expectations is important, especially when a writer starts out getting writing feedback. A lot of writers are in a good headspace when they approach critique. Nervous, maybe. Vulnerable, of course. But eager to learn and give back to a fellow writer.

In my editorial practice, I find that most writers have their expectations set correctly when they approach a feedback scenario. But some do not.

Feedback and Validation Are Different

Several times in my editing work and in my agenting career (where we give critique as part of the conference process, for example), I encountered writers who had not set their expectations successfully. They wanted validation. (Nothing wrong with that, we all do!) But they only wanted validation.

When constructive criticism accompanied the feedback, they were appalled. They wanted the green light, the “everything is perfect.” Well, that’s very hard to achieve, if not impossible. Because a manuscript is never “perfect.” Many authors—myself included—find themselves wanting to make changes to a book after it’s published!

Perfection is a fallacy. Especially in writing. Good critique will certainly find the strengths of your work, but it’s not realistic to expect only lavish praise if you set out to receive feedback.

Setting Writing Critique Expectations

Approach your critique experience with level-headed expectations. You will hear the good. (If you don’t, maybe it’s not a strong critique fit, or you can specifically ask your partner to include their positive thoughts.) But you may also hear some opportunities for growth. Some of this feedback won’t be fun to hear. Some of it might be surprising or unpleasant. (Here are some thoughts on how to deal with negative criticism.)

Once you get the feedback, regroup. Take a step back. Be open-minded to it. If there are things you really disagree with, “Take the wisdom and leave the rest.” But make sure you’re disagreeing creatively, not out of ego or emotion. Take some time with the critique. Feel free to leave and then come back to it.

Remember that your critique partner isn’t perfect, either. Nor should they be. Ask them for questions or clarifications, if you want. Make it a conversation, but work hard not to sound defensive—merely curious.

The Critique Practice

When I first started doing yoga, I resented that it was called a “practice.” I didn’t want to practice, I wanted to WIN! Now I understand the wisdom. You cannot “win” at writing or critique. We are all human beings doing our best.

Set your expectations accordingly—that you very well will be challenged, instead of simply patted on the back—and you will be that much more likely to have a successful and meaningful critique experience.

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